Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Mainstream Male Chastity?
                                                     As i have studied this dynamic as a life choice i have learned alot. Male chastity has been continually grouped into BDSM, Cuckoldry and many other so called alternative lifestyles. Leaving mainstream couples feeling extremely put off by the idea totally. For the biggest part this is a shame as the most important benefits from a male chastity relationship has nothing to do with BDSM or any of that. It has to do with the spark in your relationship, trust and dedication. Non of which require being beaten or cheated on or for that matter a so called mistress. It requires the love you have for your partner and wanting her to recognize you belong to her and that you have a constant reminder of that. Can you trust without it? Sure! But we wear wedding rings, engagement rings and promise rings. All so everyone else can see what are relationship status is. We also like the reminder to ourselves that we are connected to our partner when they are not with us. There is truly no difference with the male chastity device. Men are dedicated to their partner and have a constant reminder of that. Is it punishment to expect your partner to remain totally loyal to you without question? To include masturbation. It is my feeling that women in general are much more loyal when they feel they are not threatened or being cheated on. Men in general think much less about surfing porn and self pleasure. Robbing their own relationship. Does it help to say female led? Maybe. Is it necessary? No. your partner simply has control over your intimate life. Not your pursuit but your reward. Just as it was when you dated and found her irresistible. You waited till she said yes. And it was great! Back to why buy the cow or now i have the cow. Well there in lies alot of the problem. Male chastity washes that statement out. For you are constantly working as you did in dating to get her attention and have a chance to be close. So is male chastity mainstream material? In a relationship that values trust, dedication and wonderful closeness, YES!

Friday, March 23, 2012

Men, Marriage and Masturbation


      To start off by saying that husbands masturbating during marriage is the beginning of the end would be harsh! So, lets be harsh. Masturbation out of the presence of your wife or partner is paramount to infidelity. Simply taking it upon yourself to remove your body from your union and self pleasure yourself is a huge relationship breaker. It creates vast distance between the couple physically, emotionally and mentally. If she is unaware of it then it is lying. If you are fantasizing about anything but her it is cheating. With the vast amount of porn out there and the ideology of immediate gratification men are set up to take the road of giving little and gaining release. Watching porn can become a huge addiction. It is fake, emotionless and cold. It destroys the intimate bond between two loving couples. Admitting to it is very difficult for most men. They have fantasies and are trying to incorporate them in their daily lives. At some point if not currently their partner was their fantasy. For a healthy relationship that needs to return, which means masturbation has no place in a relationship unless it is mutual. Men need to adopt a philosophy of never participating in this practice. While it is possible to do by themselves it is not very likely they will be successful if this has gone on for a good period of time. They need help! The help of a life and relationship coach in these matters can be a recipe for success. A life coach specializing in this relationship dynamic can help both partners cut to the chase and find the path that best suits their relationship. All relationships are different. Learn how to stop this hidden relationship killer and get the close trust that all great relationships need to flourish.
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Thursday, March 22, 2012


Converting from vanilla to wife-led marriage easily qualifies as a drastic change. Typically the husband secretly harbors his submissive desires, sometimes for many years, and after finally mustering his courage, surprises her with his confession. Duh. Do you think this may be why women initially reject the notion? Especially when you consider how men can be so convincing at maintaining their traditional masculine identity, that the wives hadn't a clue their husbands want to submit to their female authority. Of course one could argue that in many marriages the wife is already in charge, but chooses not to assert her authority overtly. In this regard, "changing" to a wife-led marriage might not represent that much change after all. But we'll save that discussion for another day.

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Male Submission: 
                                   I spent my whole life battling the demons that were a self empossed remedy for my lack of sexual submission. it started very early in life for me. the idea of me belonging to someone else. i remember my first true love and me wanting her to know i was hers so much that i cut her initials into my body with a hot knife. In retrospect i believe that was my first attempt at submission! Most of the rest of my life was spent with the desire to belong to someone i loved. Not just that i loved, but could feel held that love in her control and cheerished it. embraced the power it has and incorporated it into our daily lives. This does not include pornography. It was not until my failed relationships went full circle was i brought back around to this woman many years later. this time i needed to give myself to her again, this time she was receptive to my submission and so we live a life of her control and my submission! what a great life as we have become extremely close and supportive of each other in our daily lives. Everyone should experience the depths this can take your relationship!

Monday, March 19, 2012

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